Here is one conversation I had with someone that made me change how I think of her:
Me: I heard that M is about to have her baby, can you give my regards to her and tell her that the terrible symptoms will soon pass and if she's feeling a bit depressed it's totally understandable?
Her: Depressed? Why would she feel depressed?
Me: It's the life changes and hormonal fluctuations...I went through something similar, it's called the post partum blues.
Her: You were depressed? How come you never told me?
Me: You never asked.
Her: Wow if I had a baby I would be euphoric with happiness.
Me: Good for you.